" Love is experiencing life moment to moment, in its totality " -S.K.

Attention seeking, expectation, lust, possessiveness, jealousy, along with other dependency is what we call love. It all boils down to the attention that they give us.

The whole idea of love is nothing but getting the attention of the other in some ways. To transcend both love and hatred, we first need to drop expectations. We are taught that we can only love ourselves if we have a reason. Usually when others show love to us, we feel guilty or unworthy because we don't feel worthy being loved. If we perform well, we love ourselves. If we fail, we hate ourselves ( due to the conditioning's related to reward and punishment ) . We apply the same logic to others. We love them only because of something, never without a cause or a reason.

Expectation is the first enemy of love. We should not expect any benefit from the relationship . Only then will we understand the word 'love'. Our original nature is blissful aloneness. We always place our attention in the wrong space and miss the truth. We misunderstand that the excitement and joy of love happens because of the object. We don't understand that the excitement or joy of love happens not because of the object but because of an energy that happens in us. If you get back in touch with that, you will deeply settle down within yourself with peace and love. When your nervous system is cleaned by peace, bliss will explode.

The whole of Existence is in a deep romance with itself. You are a part of it. Love is experiencing life moment to moment, in its totality. It is not about two people or any object.